Goal setting is a great thing for people to do because if you do not have goals for yourself a lot of times you feel kind of aimless. I know for moms (especially new moms) it is hard to want to do things for yourself that makes you feel like you are doing something with your life. Just making simple goals can help to really keep you feeling good and feeling like you are still a person while also being a mother. For new moms, something as simple as getting up, showering and getting dressed can be a goal that helps to just make you feel a little more human again. I know now that I am a mom setting goals is something that has really helped me feel like I am not just a mother but also a person. I hope that seeing me accomplish my goals will help Ray see that he can also do things that he really works for and sets his mind to.
As we all know, the best way to accomplish anything is to make it a goal. Now, setting goals really seems to be one of the easier parts. However, just setting the goal will not get you to the final result just like that. In order to fully reach your goal you need to break that goal down into manageable smaller goals or tasks that when accomplished they will ultimately lead you to accomplishing the big goal. Here are some of the steps I take when setting my goals. These worked extremely well when I was training for my bikini competitions but you can use these tips for any sort of goal (like writing a book or getting back into shape).
SET YOUR BIG GOAL
This is the main goal that you want to accomplish. The big thing that you want to be able to tell people about. When I was competing my goal was to take top 5 in my next local competition. You can always make this goal be something like write a book and get it published in the next 2 years. Just make sure that you are specific about it. Make sure to know exactly what you would like and how long you want it to take. This way you have a way to measure how you are doing and what you really need to do to get there.
CREATE YOUR SMALLER TASKS
After I set my main goal I like to work backward and figure out what I need to get done and accomplish by when. If it was for a competition I would figure out how many weeks or months out from the competition I was and then figure out when I would need to start my prep and start really honing in on specific workouts and diets. I would also plan on which days I would practice my posing and the closer to the completion that I got those posing practices would increase and my diet would get more strict in order to bring my best to the stage.
If I were setting a goal to write a book in the next 2 years. I would figure out when I should have the entire book written by. When I should start looking for a literary agent and what I would need to do in order to get published or to self publish. I would also figure out when I should have each chapter written by and make sure that I also schedule time to do any research that I need to get done.
SCHEDULE YOUR CALENDAR
For me I find that I can create all the goals that I want and plan out what I should do in order to make this dream a reality. However, if I do not take the time to sit down and schedule all of these plans into my calendar and make this a concrete thing that I want to do and am going to do it really just turns into a dream and stays that way. Making sure that I am scheduling things that I need to do in order to get everything done without wasting time makes me more likely to actually accomplish my major goal.
One other thing worth mentioning is that if you set a goal that your heart isn’t 100% into, all of the preparing, small goal/task setting, and scheduling usually does not help. I have found that if I am not really into my end goal and my end result it is really easy for me to push things aside or to cheat and not do the things that I need to do.