As I began this week I felt like I was already very aware of the simple ways that people were kind. I thought that most people in general were somewhat kind. But as I really went about my days throughout this week I began to notice more and more. Especially when I would be out and about with my son.
One thing that I found interesting was that I noticed that more men were kind to me that I had originally thought. I never realized how many times when I would be carrying my son into someplace where a man would hold the door open for me or let me go in first. One that really stuck out was when I was at the library we were half way to the door on the side walk and a guy that was walking past the door inside stopped to hold the door open for me. All of this really made me realize that there are still some really good men out there and that as a women I was somewhat disappointed about the way we tend to look out more for ourselves. Especially as mothers. It is almost like there is an unspoken thing that since I had to struggle when I was a mom that you should have to as well.
Realizing this I have become more aware of trying to help out other women and I am grateful to the ones that try to help me out or show me some kindness throughout my days. I have been trying to make a point to really show gratitude to someone that does help me as well in front of my son. I make sure I tell them thank you and give them a big smile. I am teaching him to say thank you as well. I want him to appreciate the help that we do get so that he will want to help others when he is a little bit older.
I know that I do struggle with making sure that I am showing gratitude toward receiving kindness. I appreciate it so much especially when little man is having a rough day and I am trying to get some errands done. Just having someone try to talk with him and smile at him to help keep him distracted is an amazing thing. A lot of times when people know that they are helping even in a small way it just makes everything better all around and can keep a good day from going bad.
Overall, as long as we are able to spread kindness throughout our days and be grateful for the kindness that we receive our days will be much brighter. And we always have to remember that little eyes are always watching how we respond to others and how we treat others (especially when moms interact with each other). Even if you do not have kids of your own, when you are out in public there are usually children around that everyone’s behavior and kindness is what is helping to shape this next generation.
I for one am trying to do my best to remember this and to live my life in kindness and awareness of others.
Kindness is not an act. It is a lifestyle. ~Anthony Douglas