There have been many times throughout my life where I have done kind things and have expected kindness in return. Times when I have helped out family and friends when they have needed it. Then I naturally expect them to be available when I might need help with something. I will say that a lot of times this expectation is met. When I have done something kind such as meeting up with a friend that needs to talk or help a friend out when they are moving, etc and I have not been met with the same type of kindness it does make me question that friendship a little bit. However, I have to remind myself that sometimes we do need to be kind without expectations because maybe that person just really needed me in that moment. I take comfort in the fact that when I am in need there will be a friend or family member there for me, it just might not be the same friend that I have already extended kindness to already. However, what you put out in the world will always come back to you in some form or another when you really need it.
I have noticed this week that a lot of times where I give kindness without expectation is in my day to day life. Simple things like holding a door open for someone or helping out a elderly neighbor do some yard work. These are the things that I have been raise to believe that you just do for others just because. There is no stigma attached, no expectation attached just being friendly and being human. These are the type of values that I want to teach my son. I want him to want to help out because we are all human and we all need to do our parts and help each other.
When I did things like hold a door open for someone it just makes me feel good. And I love it when my son wants to help me hold the door because that proves that I am teaching him this value already. We have also worked on leaving some extra pennies on the horse that kids can ride at the grocery store. He likes knowing that he is leaving a penny there for some other kid that might not have one that day and wants to ride. And maybe one day when we have forgotten our penny that same kindness will have been given from someone else so he might get to ride too.
Overall I think that people need to start trying to get back to some of the older values where people just help each other out no matter what. We have become a society that is so wrapped up in ourselves and what we can get out of all the little things that we do that our children are not being taught this simple thing. Even just something small that you can do for someone can brighten up their day. You never know what someone is going through in that moment.